“Teknolojinin geli\u015fmesi, medeniyetin zirveye ula\u015fmas\u0131 ve Amerika’dan entegre etti\u011fimiz ‘Happy Meal’, yani mutluluk sat\u0131n alma oyununun bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak; g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde insanlar birtak\u0131m kelimelerin kavram kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fcncelleyerek g\u00fcndeme uygun hale getirdiler. Ne yaz\u0131k ne kadar ac\u0131 bir durumdur bu!<\/p>\n
\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Kavramlar\u0131n \u0130\u00e7ini mi Bo\u015faltt\u0131k?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Oysaki baz\u0131 kavramlar var ki milattan \u00f6nceki d\u00f6nemde neyse, g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde de ayn\u0131 \u015fekilde, hatta daha yo\u011fun anlamlarla tarif edilmesi gerekir ama insanlar\u0131m\u0131z birbirlerini ve zaman\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00e7abuk t\u00fckettikleri i\u00e7in kavramlar\u0131n da kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 basite indirgeyip i\u015flerine geldikleri gibi yorumlayabiliyorlar. \u0130\u015fin garip taraf\u0131; t\u0131pk\u0131 bir histeri vakas\u0131 ya da psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 olanlar gibi, inand\u0131klar\u0131 ve yapt\u0131klar\u0131 o anlams\u0131z, basit tariflerin do\u011frulu\u011funu b\u00f6\u011f\u00fcrerek kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndaki insanlar\u0131 da buna inand\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorlar.<\/p>\n Ruhunuz mu \u0130stiyor, \u015eartlar\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n S\u00f6z gelimi; sevgi sonradan olu\u015fan bir \u015fey de\u011fildir. Sevgi bir kazan\u0131m ya da ba\u015far\u0131 da de\u011fildir. Sevgi, birlikte mutlu olabilmektir. Bu kelimenin tan\u0131m\u0131 tamamen bir karma\u015faya neden oluyor. Baz\u0131 insanlar; ‘Tan\u0131\u015fal\u0131m, g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015felim; sonradan belli \u015fartlar yerine geldi\u011finde birbirimizi sevmeye ba\u015flar\u0131z.’ gibi sa\u00e7ma sapan bir c\u00fcmle kuruyor. Sevgi sonradan olu\u015fan bir \u015fey de\u011fildir; sevgi, ilk g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn anda ruhunun onu istemesidir. Onunla etkile\u015fime girme, onun hayat\u0131na girme ve onu da kendi hayat\u0131na \u00e7ekme iste\u011fidir. Sevgi, ‘ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte a\u015fk’ dedi\u011finiz \u015feydir asl\u0131nda. Kafandaki soru i\u015faretlerinin cevab\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r; sen onu ilgiyle izlersin ve istersin.<\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Sizinki Sevgi mi, Pazarl\u0131k m\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n Sonradan olu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 bekledi\u011fimiz, yani belli \u015fartlar ger\u00e7ekle\u015fti\u011finde ve ortam uygun hale geldi\u011finde olu\u015facak olan \u015fey sevgi de\u011fil, hayranl\u0131kt\u0131r. Aksi takdirde, birtak\u0131m \u015fartlar ve olaylar ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftikten sonra olu\u015fmas\u0131 beklenen ‘sevgi’ \u00e7\u0131kar \u00fczerine dayal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00d6rnek veriyorum: ‘Sen benim ev kiram\u0131 \u00f6deyebilirsen seninle sevgili olabiliriz’, ‘Ayl\u0131k kuaf\u00f6r masraf\u0131m\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131larsan…’, ‘\u0130nternet ve cep telefonu faturam\u0131 \u00f6dersen…’ ya da ‘Psikolojim \u00e7ok bozuk, \u015fu an depresyonday\u0131m, iyile\u015ftikten sonra…’ veya ‘Fiziki bir rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131m var, o iyile\u015ftikten sonra…’ gibi s\u00f6zler, s\u00fcreci s\u00fcrekli ileri tarihe atan ve sonunda bir \u015feylerin olu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 beklemekten can s\u0131kan bir durum olu\u015fturur. \u015eartlara \u015furtlara ba\u011fl\u0131 sevgimi olur.<\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Mutluluk Sat\u0131n Al\u0131nabilir mi?<\/strong><\/p>\n Zamana yay\u0131lan sevgiyi bulma faaliyeti, bir bak\u0131ma \u015fu anlama gelir: ‘Bir bakal\u0131m, sen ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131m\u0131n ne kadar\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131layabilecek kapasitedesin? Maddi g\u00fcc\u00fcn ne kadar? Benim konfor alan\u0131m\u0131 ne kadar geni\u015fletebilirsin? Benim ya\u015fam standartlar\u0131m\u0131 ne kadar iyiye ve g\u00fczele do\u011fru de\u011fi\u015ftirebilirsin? Ben bunu bir g\u00f6zlemlemek istiyorum.’<\/p>\n Eskilerin bir s\u00f6z\u00fc vard\u0131r; iyi insanlar\u0131 uzaktan bakarak, y\u00fcr\u00fcy\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnden anlayamazs\u0131n. Hayat\u0131m\u0131za girecek iyi, g\u00fczel ve bilge insanlar\u0131 tan\u0131mak i\u00e7in fiziki g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmenin ya da zaman ve s\u00fcre\u00e7 i\u00e7inde tan\u0131man\u0131n daha basit y\u00f6ntemleri ve yollar\u0131 vard\u0131r. Ama elbette ki benim d\u0131\u015f\u0131mda herkes hakl\u0131d\u0131r; \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc b\u00f6yle \u00f6\u011fretildi. Okullarda bu i\u015fin e\u011fitimi verilmedi\u011fi i\u00e7in arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131zdan ya da bu i\u015fi bildi\u011fine inand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z b\u00fcy\u00fcklerimizden \u00f6\u011frenebildiklerimiz bu kadard\u0131.<\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0Sevgi Sonradan m\u0131 Olu\u015fur?<\/strong><\/p>\n Evet sevgi dedi\u011fimiz \u015fey topra\u011f\u0131n yedi kat alt\u0131nda, \u00e7ok eski d\u00f6nemlerde ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f dinazorlar\u0131n etinden olu\u015fuyor. \u00d6nce dinazorlar \u00f6l\u00fcyor, \u00f6lmesi i\u00e7in \u00f6nce olmas\u0131 gerekiyordu pardon. Bu arada her \u015fey do\u011far ve \u00f6l\u00fcr ve g\u00fczel ve mutluluk veren \u015feyler \u00e7ok k\u0131sa s\u00fcrer. O etler \u00e7\u00fcr\u00fcyor toprakla kar\u0131\u015f\u0131ma giriyor ve milyonlarca y\u0131l sonra sevgi denen p\u0131t\u0131rc\u0131k bi\u015fey ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. \u00a0Sonra biz koklayarak onu buluyoruz ve sonra \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p insanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n hizmetine haz\u0131r hale getiriyoruz.\u00a0 Dedi\u011fim gibi; sevgi, kafandaki soru i\u015faretlerini kar\u015f\u0131nda buldu\u011fun an da sakl\u0131d\u0131r. S\u00fcrece dayal\u0131 olarak sonradan olu\u015fan ilgi ve g\u00f6rsele duyulan \u00f6zlem ise hayranl\u0131kt\u0131r. \u00d6yle ya; bir sanat\u00e7\u0131y\u0131, bir ku\u015fu veya bir \u015fark\u0131y\u0131 be\u011feniyorsun. Asl\u0131nda onlar hep vard\u0131r ama sen bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 sonras\u0131 onlarla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131n ve ilgi duymaya ba\u015flad\u0131n. Sana ilgi \u00e7ekici geldi ve sen ona hayran oldun. Onunla birlikte ya\u015famay\u0131, onunla vakit ge\u00e7irmeyi, onun bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmezsin bile. Sadece onun varl\u0131\u011f\u0131, onu biliyor olmak ve onun hakk\u0131nda bilgilere sahip olmak seni mutlu eder; hayranl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ona kar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fal\u0131r.<\/p>\n Bununla ilgili bir \u00f6rnek vermek gerekirse; bir \u015fark\u0131c\u0131y\u0131 veya bir sinema sanat\u00e7\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ok be\u011fenirsin. O \u00e7ok yak\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131d\u0131r, \u00e7ok g\u00fczel sesi vard\u0131r, \u00e7ok iyi giyiniyordur. Ona ula\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilirsin; onunla birlikte olamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, her g\u00fcn ona sar\u0131lamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, onunla yemek yiyemeyece\u011fini, d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p gezemeyece\u011fini, onunla sevi\u015femeyece\u011fini bilirsin. Ona dokunamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, onun g\u00f6zlerine bakamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, onun a\u011fz\u0131ndan ‘Seni seviyorum, seni \u00e7ok \u00f6zledim’ c\u00fcmlesini duyamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilirsin. O, g\u00f6ky\u00fcz\u00fcndeki y\u0131ld\u0131zlar gibi orada durur ama sen ondan hi\u00e7bir beklentin olmadan onu be\u011fenip ilgi duyars\u0131n; yani hayran olursun. Onu, kalbi bir sevgiyle, t\u00fcm ruhunla sevemezsin. Sevemezsin, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc buna kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k bulamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, onun sana kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermeyece\u011fini bilirsin. O y\u00fczden bu duygunun ismi hayranl\u0131kt\u0131r.<\/p>\n Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla sevgi; belli ihtimaller \u00fczerine kurulmu\u015f, belli olas\u0131l\u0131klar ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftikten sonra olu\u015facak bir \u015fey de\u011fildir. Sevgi dedi\u011fimiz \u015fey, ilk g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fte kafam\u0131zdaki soru i\u015faretlerinin cevab\u0131n\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131zda bulmakt\u0131r. Sevgi dedi\u011fimiz \u015fey; ruhumuzdaki eksiklikleri yamalamak de\u011fil, o eksiklikleri kar\u015f\u0131ndakiyle doldurmakt\u0131r. Onun i\u00e7in \u00f6zel bir \u015feyler yapabilmektir ve onun i\u00e7in \u00f6zel olup, size \u00f6zel davranmas\u0131n\u0131 beklemektir. Bundan \u00f6te yol yoktur.”<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Sizlere Gelecekte G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek \u00dczerine Meydan Okuyorum.<\/p>\n O Arada G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015felim\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" “Teknolojinin geli\u015fmesi, medeniyetin zirveye ula\u015fmas\u0131 ve Amerika’dan entegre etti\u011fimiz ‘Happy Meal’, yani mutluluk sat\u0131n alma oyununun bir par\u00e7as\u0131 olarak; g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde insanlar birtak\u0131m kelimelerin kavram kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve tan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fcncelleyerek g\u00fcndeme uygun hale getirdiler. Ne yaz\u0131k ne kadar ac\u0131 bir durumdur bu! \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Kavramlar\u0131n \u0130\u00e7ini mi Bo\u015faltt\u0131k?\u00a0 Oysaki baz\u0131 kavramlar var ki milattan \u00f6nceki d\u00f6nemde neyse, g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":143598,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[37],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-144981","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-safak-genc"],"views":34,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/144981","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=144981"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/144981\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":144982,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/144981\/revisions\/144982"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/143598"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=144981"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=144981"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=144981"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}