Bazen bir \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsek de ula\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir hakikat, hi\u00e7 ummad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir anda, hi\u00e7 ummad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z birinin dudaklar\u0131ndan d\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcr i\u00e7imize. Birka\u00e7 hafta \u00f6nce, eski bir kahvehanenin sessiz k\u00f6\u015fesinde, doksan yedi ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bir dede ile yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m sohbet tam da b\u00f6yleydi. Y\u00fcz\u00fcnde zaman\u0131n yorgunlu\u011fu, bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda ise \u00e7ocuklu\u011fun lekesiz durulu\u011fu vard\u0131. Sanki y\u0131llar onu ya\u015fland\u0131rm\u0131\u015f, fakat kalbini solduramam\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n
Konu\u015fmam\u0131z s\u0131ras\u0131nda bana d\u00f6n\u00fcp \u015fu c\u00fcmleyi s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n
\u201cYaradan, azan kar\u0131ncaya kanat takar, ku\u015fa yem edermi\u015f. Her y\u00fckseli\u015fi hayra, her d\u00fc\u015f\u00fc\u015f\u00fc \u015ferre yormamak laz\u0131m. Ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za gelen iyi ya da k\u00f6t\u00fc olaylardan dolay\u0131 ne \u015fik\u00e2yet edin ne isyan edin. Sadece \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr ve te\u015fekk\u00fcr edin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc Yaradan\u2019\u0131n arka planda sizin i\u00e7in gizli bir plan\u0131 mutlaka vard\u0131r. Mutluluk da dert de bizlere misafirdir. Misafirin ne zaman gidece\u011fini biz de\u011fil, zaman belirler.\u201d<\/p>\n
Bu s\u00f6z, ilk anda bir atas\u00f6z\u00fc gibi duyulabilir. Oysa i\u00e7inde, hayat\u0131 anlamaya yetecek kadar derin bir hikmet sakl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck yan\u0131lg\u0131s\u0131, ba\u015f\u0131na geleni sadece geldi\u011fi an\u0131n penceresinden de\u011ferlendirmesidir. Oysa hayat, ilk bak\u0131\u015fta g\u00f6r\u00fcnenin \u00e7ok \u00f6tesindedir. Bize nimet gibi sunulan baz\u0131 \u015feyler, asl\u0131nda bir imtihan\u0131n ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131 olabilir. Felaket sand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z baz\u0131 kay\u0131plar da sonradan bir rahmetin habercisine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir.<\/p>\n
\u201cAzan kar\u0131ncaya kanat tak\u0131lmas\u0131\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc, tam da bunu anlat\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Kar\u0131nca yere ait bir varl\u0131kt\u0131r; k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fckt\u00fcr, sade ya\u015far, nasibini topra\u011f\u0131n yak\u0131n\u0131nda arar. Fakat yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n hududunu unutup da ba\u015fka bir h\u00e2le \u00f6zenirse, ona verilen kanat kurtulu\u015f de\u011fil, sonun ba\u015flang\u0131c\u0131 olur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc o kanat, onu g\u00f6\u011fe y\u00fckseltmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, savunmas\u0131z b\u0131rakmak i\u00e7in verilmi\u015ftir. \u0130nsan i\u00e7in de durum \u00e7o\u011fu zaman b\u00f6yledir. Makam, servet, \u015f\u00f6hret, alk\u0131\u015f… Bunlar\u0131n her biri d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan nimet gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. Fakat e\u011fer insan\u0131 tevazudan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor, kendine hayran b\u0131rak\u0131yor, haddini unutturuyorsa, o zaman nimet de\u011fil, g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez bir tuzak h\u00e2line gelir.<\/p>\n
Ne var ki mesele yaln\u0131zca y\u00fckseli\u015fin tehlikesi de\u011fildir. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fc\u015f\u00fc de hemen felaket saymamak gerekir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc baz\u0131 kay\u0131plar, insan\u0131 kendine getirir. Baz\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131mlar, daha b\u00fcy\u00fck bir \u00e7\u00f6k\u00fc\u015f\u00fc \u00f6nler. Baz\u0131 ac\u0131lar, insan\u0131n i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda hi\u00e7 a\u00e7\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f kap\u0131lar\u0131 aralar. Kapanan bir kap\u0131, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman insan\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ba\u015fka bir kap\u0131ya \u00e7evirir. Bug\u00fcn \u201cNeden benim ba\u015f\u0131ma geldi?\u201d diye yak\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z pek \u00e7ok \u015feyin, y\u0131llar sonra \u201c\u0130yi ki olmu\u015f.\u201d dedirtecek bir hikmeti olabilir.<\/p>\n
\u0130nsan hayat\u0131, biraz da acele h\u00fck\u00fcmler y\u00fcz\u00fcnden a\u011f\u0131rla\u015f\u0131r. Hemen mutlu olmak, hemen y\u00fckselmek, hemen sonu\u00e7 almak istiyoruz. Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn d\u00fcnyas\u0131 bize sabretmeyi de\u011fil, h\u0131zlanmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretiyor. Sosyal medya ise bu yan\u0131lsamay\u0131 daha da b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fcyor. Herkes birbirine hayat\u0131n\u0131n parlayan taraf\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6steriyor; kimse k\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 yeri, da\u011f\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcn\u00fc, i\u00e7inden ge\u00e7ti\u011fi karanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 anlatm\u0131yor. B\u00f6yle olunca da insan, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n vitriniyle kendi i\u00e7 yorgunlu\u011funu k\u0131yaslay\u0131p daha da inciniyor.<\/p>\n
Oysa ger\u00e7ek hayat vitrinlerde de\u011fil, sessiz imtihanlarda sakl\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcten \u015fey, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman alk\u0131\u015f de\u011fil; bekleyi\u015ftir. Olgunla\u015ft\u0131ran \u015fey, bolluk de\u011fil; eksikliktir. Kalbi derinle\u015ftiren \u015fey de daima sevin\u00e7 de\u011fil; bazen tam aksine, derttir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc dert insan\u0131 yava\u015flat\u0131r. Yava\u015flayan insan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ba\u015flar. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen insan ise sadece d\u00fcnyay\u0131 de\u011fil, kendisini de tan\u0131maya ba\u015flar.<\/p>\n
\u0130\u015fte tam burada sab\u0131r ve \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr, insan ruhunun iki sars\u0131lmaz dire\u011fi olarak kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kar. Sab\u0131r, sadece dayanmak de\u011fildir. Sab\u0131r; ba\u015fa geleni \u00f6fkeye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcrmeden ta\u015f\u0131mak, kalbi isyana d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrmeden beklemek, karanl\u0131k g\u00fcnlerde dahi anlam\u0131n tamamen kaybolmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na inanmakt\u0131r. \u015e\u00fck\u00fcr ise yaln\u0131zca bolluk zamanlar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fc de\u011fildir. As\u0131l \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr, eksildi\u011finde de g\u00f6rmesini bilmek, darda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda da elindekinin k\u0131ymetini fark edebilmektir. Bollukta te\u015fekk\u00fcr etmek kolayd\u0131r; fakat darl\u0131kta da nimeti g\u00f6rebilmek, insan\u0131n i\u00e7 zenginli\u011fini g\u00f6sterir.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131llar i\u00e7inde hepimiz bunu farkl\u0131 bi\u00e7imlerde ya\u015far\u0131z. Bazen \u00e7ok istedi\u011fimiz bir \u015fey olur ve bizi mutlu eder; sonra fark ederiz ki o \u015fey bizi kendimizden uzakla\u015ft\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Bazen de istemedi\u011fimiz bir k\u0131r\u0131lma ya\u015far\u0131z; ilk anda can\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yakar, fakat zamanla anlar\u0131z ki o k\u0131r\u0131lma bizi uyand\u0131rm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. Hayat, insana hakikati \u00e7o\u011fu zaman hemen de\u011fil, gecikmeli olarak \u00f6\u011fretir. Bu y\u00fczden bug\u00fcn ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir olay\u0131n ger\u00e7ek anlam\u0131n\u0131, belki ancak y\u0131llar sonra \u00e7\u00f6zebiliriz.<\/p>\n
Bu sebeple ne ba\u015far\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda kendimizi fazla b\u00fcy\u00fctmeye ne de kay\u0131plar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda kendimizi tamamen terk edilmi\u015f hissetmeye hakk\u0131m\u0131z var. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan, bazen kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131yla s\u0131nan\u0131r, bazen de kaybetti\u011fiyle. M\u00fchim olan, her iki durumda da kalbin istikametini koruyabilmektir. \u015e\u0131marmadan sevinmek, y\u0131k\u0131lmadan \u00fcz\u00fclmek, ta\u015fmadan var olmak, t\u00fckenmeden eksilmek… Belki de ger\u00e7ek olgunluk tam olarak budur.<\/p>\n
O doksan yedi ya\u015f\u0131ndaki dede bana uzun bir hayat dersi vermedi. Sadece birka\u00e7 c\u00fcmle s\u00f6yledi. Fakat o birka\u00e7 c\u00fcmle, zamanla i\u00e7imde b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc. Anlad\u0131m ki mutluluk da h\u00fcz\u00fcn de kal\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil. Varl\u0131k da yokluk da, sa\u011fl\u0131k da hastal\u0131k da, \u00f6vg\u00fc de yaln\u0131zl\u0131k da bir s\u00fcreli\u011fine kap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7alan misafirlerden ibaret. Hi\u00e7biri sonsuza kadar kalm\u0131yor. Ne gelen tamamen bizim oluyor ne de giden b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcyle bizden bir \u015fey eksiltiyor. \u0130nsan, asl\u0131nda biraz da gidene raz\u0131 olmay\u0131, gelene de \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fc sevinmeyi \u00f6\u011frendi\u011finde olgunla\u015f\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
Belki de bu y\u00fczden hayat\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc, sahip olmakta de\u011fil; emanet oldu\u011funu bilmektedir. Her \u015feyin ge\u00e7ici oldu\u011funu fark eden insan, ne nimetin sarho\u015fu olur ne de musibetin mahk\u00fbmu. Daha sakin ya\u015far, daha derin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, daha az h\u00fck\u00fcm verir. Ve bilir ki zaman, en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6\u011fretmendir.<\/p>\n
Bug\u00fcn geriye d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, o eski kahvehanede i\u015fitti\u011fim s\u00f6zlerin sadece kula\u011f\u0131ma de\u011fil, kalbime s\u00f6ylendi\u011fini anl\u0131yorum. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ger\u00e7ekten de her \u015fey misafirdir. Sevin\u00e7 misafirdir, keder misafirdir. Gen\u00e7lik misafirdir, ihtiyarl\u0131k misafirdir. Varl\u0131k misafirdir, yokluk misafirdir. Hatta biz bile bu d\u00fcnyada misafiriz. \u00d6yle de\u011fil mi?<\/p>\n
\u00d6yleyse kap\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7alan her h\u00e2li edep ile kar\u015f\u0131layal\u0131m. Gelen nimeti \u015f\u00fck\u00fcrle, gelen derdi sab\u0131rla a\u011f\u0131rlayal\u0131m. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ne mutluluk sonsuza kadar bizimle kalacakt\u0131r ne de ac\u0131. Ama ikisini nas\u0131l kar\u015f\u0131lad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, kim oldu\u011fumuzu belirleyecektir.<\/p>\n
Unutmayal\u0131m: Hayat, geleni tutma de\u011fil; gideni de s\u00fck\u00fbnetle u\u011furlama sanat\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Sizlere Gelecekte G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmek \u00dczerine Meydan Okuyorum.<\/p>\n
O Arada G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015felim\u2026<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bazen bir \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnsek de ula\u015famayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir hakikat, hi\u00e7 ummad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir anda, hi\u00e7 ummad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z birinin dudaklar\u0131ndan d\u00f6k\u00fcl\u00fcr i\u00e7imize. Birka\u00e7 hafta \u00f6nce, eski bir kahvehanenin sessiz k\u00f6\u015fesinde, doksan yedi ya\u015f\u0131ndaki bir dede ile yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m sohbet tam da b\u00f6yleydi. Y\u00fcz\u00fcnde zaman\u0131n yorgunlu\u011fu, bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda ise \u00e7ocuklu\u011fun lekesiz durulu\u011fu vard\u0131. Sanki y\u0131llar onu ya\u015fland\u0131rm\u0131\u015f, fakat kalbini solduramam\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Konu\u015fmam\u0131z […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":17,"featured_media":141661,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[37],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-142047","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-safak-genc"],"views":111,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/142047","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/17"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=142047"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/142047\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":142048,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/142047\/revisions\/142048"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/141661"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=142047"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=142047"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mersingazetesi.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=142047"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}